The Power in Choosing Yourself
There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes that waiting for someone else to validate her worth is no longer an option. It’s the moment she decides to stand up, take a deep breath, and say I choose me.
For years, I poured into people who had no intention of pouring back. I showed up for those who disappeared when I needed them most. And still, I kept showing up because that’s what strong women do, right? We love harder, forgive quicker, and hold on longer than we should. But one day, I had to face a truth I had been avoiding: strength isn’t always about endurance. Sometimes, strength is in the release.
Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you’re selfish. It means you finally understand your value. It means your peace, your time, your energy ...they all matter. You begin to protect your space like it’s sacred, because it is.
When I started choosing myself, everything changed. My boundaries got clearer. My goals became sharper. And the version of me that once felt lost started to feel seen again by me.
If you’ve ever dimmed your light to make someone else comfortable, this message is for you. Choosing yourself is not abandoning others; it’s returning home to who you truly are. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and you can’t build an empire if you’re constantly trying to fix everyone else’s foundation but your own.
Today, I challenge you to pause and ask: What does choosing myself look like today? Maybe it’s saying “no” without guilt. Maybe it’s starting that business, lighting your candle, or simply sitting in silence to feel your own energy again.
Remember, sis, when you choose yourself, the world begins to adjust. The right people, opportunities, and peace find their way to you because you’ve finally made space for what’s meant for you.
So light that candle, set your intention, and affirm:
“I choose me — because I am the foundation of everything I’m building.”
Love,
Tomeka Tennille
Founder of B.A.W.S.E. Collections — where healing meets luxury and self-love leads the way.